Saturday, February 11, 2006

Regression over communication skills - why?

I still remember the times when I had to keep a diary for myself, or more precisely, for myself and my parents. I had to think of an interesting, intriguing or biting occurrence of the day, make a substantial point out of it, and write it down to please all three of us. At the time without any knowledge about 'privacy', I was encouraged and managed to reveal every piece of my observations, thoughts and ideas, and try to organise them into one short and sound essay. Believe it or not, by doing so I became the most articulate dude among my peers. Nobody won a debate over me. I never had to prepare for a speech. I am close to the word professionalism, which I heard almost 10 years later.

We evolve, and it is worth thinking if the evlution was to the more desired direction or the opposite. One of the nascent internet gadgets, blogging, definitely redefines our ways of communication. We started to broadcast to the world (our small world) our experiences, thoughts, feelings, emotions and non-senses by no more than 20 words a day. One day we found out that we stopped to speak full sentences, full paragraphs, and we were unable to articulate any more. Our minds became fragmented, and we can hardly make them into one piece again. It surely is convenient to communicate with short phrases or a couple of unrelated statements as long as each of them does impression, but is that really desired?

Sit down my friend. Think of the situations where you still have to make a five-minute impromptu presentation, or the time when you had to argue with someone seriously, unprepared. What were you like? 'Eh... mm... as a matter of fact' Fillers, all kinds of fillers. You behaved like an idiot, in every sense that is well defined. Consequently you would be defeated, dejected and ashamed.

'Fool me once, shame on... shame on you, fool me... you can't get fooled again.'

PS: Inability to speak out or express one's ideas can be due to his customarily intentional covering up of his thoughts, because of his lack of security and his unwillingless to reveal himself. However, he was still often easily read out by other people, and indeed what he has been hiding were of no significance to those who wanted to understand and make use of him. He was 'sacrificing his food in fear of getting choked'. Make it three steps, it would be like: 1, be articulate about your real thoughts, 2, be articulate about everything you can make up, 3, be articulate on everything but you only speak the insignificant ones...